Internet revenge after being dumped

KUALA LUMPUR, MALAYSIA - Lin (not her real name), a college student from Rawang, Selangor, was 18 when she met Peter (not his real name).

The couple had dated for more than a year when Lin decided to end the stormy relationship.

Vengeful, Peter posted her nude pictures and video clips of them having sex on the Internet.


Peter, who had belonged to a Rawang gang, also converted the video clips into a DVD and forwarded it to her father, a postman in his 50s.

"I am so ashamed and unable to go out of my house. My family has had to suffer because of my mistakes," Lin said.

The family approached MIC Youth for help. The wing turned the young man in to the police, who confiscated his mobile phone.

"But the damage has been done. My future has been destroyed. I shouldn't have done what I did," Lin said in a telephone interview.

Another woman from Kampar, Perak, who only wants to known as Hani, was promised a job as an actress and a dancer in local movies by a man from here.

Thinking that the man truly loved her and had her interests at heart, she did everything he wanted.

He also took nude pictures of her and their sex acts.

Soon, she was made to sleep with other men who were said to be "film producers".

Realising her folly, Hani wanted to return to her parents' home, but was threatened that her pictures would be posted on the Internet if she did.

It was nearly two years later that she managed to seek help from MIC.

By then, she had slept with more than 20 men and had given birth to a child, who was given up for adoption.

These are some of the cases that have come to the attention of MIC Youth in the last three years.

Why do women allow themselves to be caught in such situation?

According to University Malaya Medical Centre psychiatrist Dr Jesjeet Singh Gill, young girls pose nude for their boyfriends because they are immature and too trusting of their boyfriends.

"They would do anything to prove their love to their boyfriends."

He said when older women did it, it was normally because of their personality, being either too dependent or insecure and fearful of abandonment.

"These women know what they are doing is wrong, yet they do it to please their men."

He said girls and women from from all walks of life had fallen prey to "sextortionists" who posted their nude pictures and video clips on the Net.

Dr Jesjeet said parents must supervise their children, know who their friends are and what they are doing. He said it was also important for them to educate their children on the dangers of the Internet.

"Older women need to be made aware of the dangers."

Source: Asiaone.com/NST